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I am a magazine, public relations, and sociology major at Drake University who is ALWAYS on the go...and I LOVE it!! This blog is a digital record of my evolving writing skills throughout college. To view my dating/relationship blog visit hsmason.wordpress.com.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

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Check out my new dating blog, Trial and Error at hsmason.wordpress.com!

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The entertainment industry thrives on the failures and successes of dating. Going through my iTunes, about 90% of my music library is devoted to songs about love, I am a devoted fan of cheesy romantic comedies, and my bookshelf is loaded down with stories of any relationship imaginable.

It’s no wonder that the media devotes so much time and attention to this subject, because really, it’s one that everyone is constantly trying to figure out. Whether it’s the single girl looking for love or the married man trying to keep his marriage strong, questions always arise.

Maybe I’ve just always been way too big a fan of Carrie Bradshaw’s fictional blog on relationships, but I’d like to think I can give my voice to some of these questions just as well as the Sex star can.

Thus with this blog, Trial and Error, I begin my attempts.

Feel free to send any questions, comments, stories, or anecdotes to my email address, Helen.mason@drake.edu.

Enjoy!

Monday, December 6, 2010

3 Must-See Destinations in London


Home to almost eight million people, the location for countless movies and the birthplace of Harry Potter, London can seem a formidable opponent to the average traveler. These three destinations will make any tourist want to skip that flight home, and become a resident of the city that is “the Big Smoke”.

1) Camden Market-

Camden Market puts New York City’s Canal Street to shame. Selling designer knock-offs right alongside the works of upcoming designers, the market contains anything your heart could desire, as long as you’re willing to look for it. If you can navigate the twisting and turning paths of stalls, you can find unique furniture, hand-made clothing and an impossible array of knick-knacks. The stunning view of Regent’s Canal makes the experience that much more visit-worthy.

2) The Tower of London-

Feel like royalty and visit the 23,578 crown jewels in the jewel house, go through the interactive exhibition of the prisons and torture methods used long ago or take a guided tour given by the Yeoman Warders (royal bodyguards). Leave plenty of time for these activities, as all of them are included in the price of your admission ticket. When you’re done, don’t forget to take the standard tourist picture next to the Tower of London Bridge to send home.

3) The Natural History Museum


Traveling around London isn’t cheap; so take advantage of any free activities, a great one being the Natural History Museum. Open everyday, the museum boasts an impressive exhibit of 14 dinosaur skeletons, a gorgeous mineral gallery displaying crystals and gemstones and a frighteningly realistic exhibit of Earth’s potential demise. Finish the day like a true Brit with tea and scones in the museum’s café.

While one could spend year after year in London and not completely discover everything the city has to offer, these three stops will give you enough tales, photos and facts to enthrall your friends with a journey well traveled.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

New “Power of Print” Ads Trash Talk Internet



When I first saw the new Magazines: The Power of Print ads last spring, they gave me hope. In the world of a magazine major, where I am constantly told by my parents and non-journalism student peers that magazines are dying, the ads were a nice reminder that readers do still enjoy the glossy, tangible print versions of magazines.

Additionally, the collaboration between Conde Nast, Hearst Magazines,Meredith Corporation, Time Inc. and Wenner Media was inspiring. To see the heads of competing publications working together to save an industry I want to work in sent to me, as well as to the general public a message; magazines are here to stay. According to MultiVu, a PR newswire company, “With the full support of the Magazine Publishers of America (MPA), the campaign targets advertisers, shareholders and industry influencers, and seeks to reshape the broader conversation about magazines, challenge misperceptions about the medium’s relevancy and longevity, and reinforce magazines’ important cultural role.”

An older "Power of Print" ad

The ads have indeed started this conversation. However, the tone of this conversation has changed with the “Power of Print” ads that just came out. Featuring, a woman laying in a hammock presumably reading a magazine, the new ads don’t just promote print magazines, but also comment on the drawbacks to the internet. ”They (print magazines) don’t show video or deliver pop up ads out of nowhere,” the new ads state.

New ads

While, the creators were most likely trying to send the same message as the other advertisements, I found this one to be slightly distasteful. Although I know there is an importance to advocating the longevity of print media, journalists must also accept that the internet has opened up an even wider array of markets and target audiences. Magazine websites that offer additional content, blogs from different publications, iPad versions of publications, and many other web-based versions of content allow magazines to reach many more people than was once possible. I’d like to see the ads go back to merely advocating print, rather than attacking something we need to embrace and utilize.

Do you agree that the new ads have taken a different direction from the previous ones, or are they merely promoting the same message? Do you prefer your content delivered through print or electronically? What are other ways that publishers can advocate print?

Sunday, November 21, 2010

Diwali Night



Diwali-at first just a foreign-sounding word, soon became an eye opening experience in a few short hours of celebration and learning.

Wanting to break out of our usual weekend routine, my friend and I recently attended the Southeast Asian Student Association and Malaysian Student Association's collaborative Diwali festival at Drake University. The Hindu holiday, meaning celebration of lights, was celebrated with Southeast Asian cuisine, dancers and a presentation on the meaning of Diwali, as well as on the Shanti Bhavan Children's Project (the benefiting organization from the evening).

Although the evening was a fun break from the monotony of college weekends and a unique cultural exposure for me, my main takeaway was the reminder that all sorts of people with various backgrounds and experiences attend my tiny liberal arts school. I've found that going to a small school makes it far too easy to make generalizations about people. We go to classes and see the same people everyday; we go to parties and talk to familiar people and spot them downtown, wave because we've had at least one conversation with them. But just because we see these people all the time, doesn't mean we actually know them. We don't know their fears, hopes, or hidden trials.

Diwali showed me that maybe some of these guys aren't just the fratty boys I see out. Maybe that frat guy cares about his family in the same way I do, maybe he has a culture completely different from my own, or maybe he's passionate about something I've never seen him do. As I watched one of my sorority sisters dance across the stage, her ears adorned with jewelry and wearing a colorful sari, I was struck once again with the fact that I don't really know her. She isn't another random Drake student, but someone I eat dinner with, share secret rituals with, and she has a whole separate life just like I do.

I don't know why I never came to this realization before. I know how frustrated I get when people think they know me: a sorority girl with a 4.0, someone that loves to have fun as much as I study, the girl on campus always in a skirt. But little do they know that I've suffered heartache, lost a parent, raised myself and come out on the other side a little broken, but strong. It saddens me that I could generalize people in such a hypocritical fashion.

So I got more out of Diwali than buttered chicken. I was reminded to open my eyes and get to know the people around me, because a liberal arts education could give me much more than a bachelor's degree.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do


(Photo courtesy of blissfullydomestic.com)

Neil Sedaka had it right; breaking up is hard to do. Whether you’re the dump-er or the dump-ee, hurt is bound to follow.

The Dump-er

Although it may seem like the easier position of the two, no one likes hurting people (at least if you’re a good person you don’t).

I recently read an article on collegecandy.com about the etiquette of breaking up. Miss Manners offered these tips:

-Break up face to face

-Avoid using clichés

-Don’t say, “I love you” unless you actually mean it

-Don’t hook up/get caught with another guy too soon

Her overall rule, though, and the most important: Be Respectful.

No matter what this guy has done to you, leave with the upper hand. Be the classy mature woman you would want to be remembered as.

My own tip for breaking up is to wait out your decision for a bit. In the days following a break-up, you may desperately miss that person. After being with them for so long, you may come to realize how much time you spent with them and may no longer know how to fill it. And in today’s world, grabbing your cell phone, or communicating via Facebook with your ex is all too easy...don’t! While you may miss them for now, wait at least two weeks before taking any action. That way you can decide if you really miss them as a person, or if you just miss companionship in general.

The Dump-ee

My hard and fast rule for breaking up: You get two days to wallow, two weeks to be sad, and then go on with your life as usual. If he broke up with you, he obviously couldn’t see all the wonderful things you had to offer, or perhaps you just weren’t compatible. Move on!

Romanceforeveryone.com gives their tips on moving on:

-Figure out who is in your support network

-Remove reminders of the relationship

-Minimize contact with your ex

-Don’t start dating immediately

-Hang out with your single friends

My number one pet peeve about people who have just broken up is reading all about it on Facebook or Twitter. Don’t feel the need to update everyone on your friends list about your feelings via status updates!

No matter what, remember things happen for a reason. Dating is all trial and error, and eventually, things will work out for the best.


Monday, October 11, 2010

Thinking Outside the Dating Box

I was a high school cliché, a cheerleader dating the all-American football player. But at a high school of 400 kids, almost every guy played football. Even the theater guys played football. Never once would I say I had a “type.” I dated bad boys, class clowns, guys who could sing and guys who could shoot a bow and arrow.

But after coming to college, I realized a lot of girls do seem to date the same type of guys, each one almost a paper-doll cutout of the next. I learned a new vocabulary word when my friend got called a “jersey-chaser” because she had a thing for athletes. I also have a friend who only seems to be attracted to guys of one fraternity. So what does that make her, a “letter-chaser”? There are also those almost incestuous groups that continuously hook up with different people from their clique of friends or people on their dorm floor (floor-cest).

So is it good to have a type, to know what you want and to go for it? Or, does it rule out people that could potentially be a perfect fit? I tend to agree with the latter for one reason: picky eaters. I hated eating anything green when I was little. Corn and carrots were fine, but a green bean was repulsive. A few years down the line, and I actually find myself craving fresh salads and broccoli after one too many Spike’s burritos.

Either way, vegetables or guys, you don’t know what you like until you try out a variety of types. Carrot after carrot can be great, but you may be missing out on a really tasty cucumber.

Not to mention, most of us are in our early 20s, the age where we have no clue what we want. I can barely pick out what skirt to wear each day, let alone what I want out of a relationship. We all know at least one person that has changed their major about eight times. I think it’s safe to say our “types” will change as time goes on. If I end up 40 and single, a Samantha-type girl from “Sex and the City,” then maybe I will consider narrowing down my interests to a “type.”

Next weekend when you’re hanging out at the same frat house as every other weekend, try thinking more about that cute non-greek guy. Maybe that guy you see hanging out in FAC all the time can make you laugh harder than anyone else on the field. Make yourself a vegetable medley and discover what else is out there.

http://www.timesdelphic.com/2010/10/03/thinking-outside-the-dating-box

Friday, September 24, 2010

GaGa a Gimmick


Last week I had my first article published in the school newspaper. I decided this year to do an opinion's column, except I only remembered this at 2 AM the day of my noon deadline. So sitting in front of a blank screen, I tried desperately to come up with an opinion on something, anything. All of a sudden my friend said, "Everyone has an opinion about Lady GaGa, write about her."
The finished product:

(My column picture!)

Fishnet tights, metallic platforms and pointy shoulder pads finished off my friends’ Friday night outfits. Climbing into a cab, they should have been going to an all night dance party, but really they were just sick.

Not stay at home with the stomach flu sick or 104-degree fever sick; they caught the Gaga fever, and it’s a hard one to shake.

From her days at Tisch School of the Arts in New York in 2003 to releasing her first album in 2008, Lady Gaga has been nothing but weird, and it’s just continued from there. This woman has sold over 15 million albums worldwide by talking about someone’s “Poker Face.” Gaga also sings about “Liking it Rough” and taking off “Our Fancy Pants.” But it’s more than just crude lyrics that have inspired Lady Gaga fans to show up in droves at her concerts.

Lady Gaga’s personality is just as eccentric as her lyrics. Bringing Kermit the Frog as her date to the 2009 Video Music Awards, Gaga made another one of her famously confusing public appearances.

Even when heading to the supermarket, the singer goes out in full costume and makeup. Clearly, she is not one to push that celebrities are real people, too.

Personally, I don’t understand the hype. The costumes and the stunts all seem to be just a ruse to get famous quick and to make people talk, even if it isn’t always positive things being said. However, I have to give it to Gaga, she doesn’t beat around the bush about her desire for fame, naming her first two albums “The Fame” and “Fame Monster.”

She’s even using her fame status to preach abstinence to her young fans. Handing out condoms at all her shows, Gaga told The Huffington Post about her celibacy, and her desire for her fans to hold off on sex and “get to know people.” Sounds pretty hypocritical to me, coming from a woman who sings about “disco sticks.”

What if all of our favorite celebrities survived on gimmicks alone? When I hear Lady Gaga’s name, her singing voice isn’t exactly the first thing on my mind. Whatever happened to the sophistication and culture of the performing arts? What once used to be a nation’s refined taste has now shifted unto gyrating divas like Gaga.

If we want to continue seeing talented people become icons let’s ditch the gimmicks and the pointy shoulder pads, and rely on our art.

Surprisingly, I've gotten quite a bit of email response from this piece, something I didn't even think was worth publishing. So surprise me again! Let me know if you have any opinions.




Monday, September 20, 2010

You Know You have one too...


Every girl has one-the playlist they listen to when some guy is being unbearably idiotic.....so here's mine (for now):

Hot'N'Cold-Katy Perry

Leave the Pieces-The Wreckers

Call Me When You're Sober-Evanescence

Need You Now-Lady Antebellum

Feed Your Ego-Angel Taylor

Shut Up and Kiss Me-Orianthi

Round and Round-Selena Gomez & The Scene

Love the Way You Lie-Eminem ft. Rihanna

Hot Mess-Ashley Tisdale

(No More) What Ifs-Natasha Bedingfield

I Just Want Your Kiss Boy-Kate Nash

The Nicest Thing-Kate Nash

Shit Song-Kate Nash

Living Proof-The Downtown Fiction

Beauty in Walking Away-Marie Digby

Realize-Colbie Cailait

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Beauty in Imperfection


I'm one of those people who could sit in a mall and people watch for hours-partly because I love looking at clothing and what people are wearing, but also because it amazes me how just two people can have thousands of physical differences. What I really find interesting to look at are people's "imperfections". Tyra Banks says it best on America's Next Top Model every season, it's those imperfections that make someone different and beautiful. Taking this into consideration, I realized that those are also the things I most like people complimenting me on as well. Any guy can give me a compliment and I'll brush it off as either-

A) He just picked something random to compliment because he knows it's the right thing to do.

B) He's looking for a compliment back to give him a little ego boost (the worst kind)

or

C) He's just looking to get in my pants (Okay I lied, that's the worst kind of compliment)

But when a guy compliments something subtle like the freckles on the back of my shoulders, or comments on an interesting birthmark I have, that's when I know that-

A) This guy's really been paying attention to every little bit of me

B) He's not superficial

and/or

C) He wants to get to know me even better, enough to know more quirks and little facts that no one else knows.

So in honor of accepting that differences make people beautiful, I decided to make a list of things that make me different and may someday make someone else people watching, look twice.

1) My hair is always a mess, no matter what I do to it. Luckily, I've learned to just go with it.

2) I have a long nose with a big 'ol British bump, but it is the same as my mother's which makes me feel fortunate.

3) I use purple eyeliner instead of black, because I don't like my eyes looking too dark.

4) I pretty much always wear either skirts or dresses. I hate the feeling of pants and I especially hate the feeling of jeans on my body.

5) I may not have a ton of upper body strength but I have some strong legs thanks to 16 years of ballet.

6) Lifeguarding every day of summer gives me a deep tan, but I lose it in about two days if I'm not in the sun.

7) I don't have too many freckles but I am covered in moles, moles that scare the crap out of me thanks to all the safe sun movements I read about in magazines

8)I have four birthmarks: one that looks like the Redwing Shoe Co. logo, one shaped like Hawaii, one that looks just like a bruise, and a normal spotted one

9) My nails are always short, I cannot stand having long nails!

10) I have pretty long eyelashes but I will never touch a lash-curler, they look like torture devices to me!

11) I have a booty, nuff said.

Even though I have not always appreciated the things I listed, I am starting too. Maybe that's just a part of growing up, learning to live with your imperfections, but I think it's more than that. I'm not just learning to live with them, but starting to like them. Gone are the days when I wanted to be just like everyone else.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Owl City Music Review



I've had no inspiration to write in this blog lately. Not even any sound advice about starting off a new school year in the right way has come into my head....So instead of posting a brand new entry I am "going green" and recycling an old article I found. The following is the first article I ever had published, a Q & A with Andrew de Torres, the lead singer of The Scene Aesthetic, that I wrote for a music review. Enjoy!

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The Scene Aesthetic opened the Oct. 8th Owl City show at People's Court with the chill acoustic tracks they are known for. The indie band sang deep, rhythmic lyrics, which, paired with the acoustic guitar and harmonious back-up vocals, gave the band's performance a personal and subdued touch. DrakeMag caught up with Andrew De Torres, the 24-year-old vocalist and guitarist of TSA.

DrakeMag: What did you think of the drive to Iowa?
Andrew De Torres: Oh, it was beautiful! Not a ton around-a lot of farms, and those big windmill things.

DM: Have you lived in Seattle your whole life?
ADT: I moved to Seattle when I was about eight or nine. I actually was born in San Juan, Puerto Rico, and I lived there until I moved.

DM: How long have you and your bandmate, Eric Bowley, been together?
ADT: We've been playing together for about four and a half years. It's kind of weird though, because he was gone two of those years on a mission trip in Argentina. So technically the band has been together two and a half years.

DM: How did the two of you meet?
ADT: It was kind of random. I'm in another band called Danger Radio. Eric's cousin used to come and watch us play all the time. He randomly brought Eric out, and we became friends and went to a Christmas party together. Eric was driving me home and his car broke down. We ended up just singing Hanson until the car started again. I was like, "Oh, you can sing. Let's write this song together." So, we started playing together.

DM: How'd you come up with the name The Scene Aesthetic?
ADT: I was looking for a name for Danger Radio, because we didn't really have one yet. During my senior year of high school I wrote down a ton of names that I just thought sounded cool. And, weirdly enough, when we had to choose a name for The Scene Aesthetic, that was one of the only ones I could remember. I was like, "Hey what do you think of this name?" and he was like, "Yeah I like it!" It's been with us ever since. But you know what? I mean in theory, it's probably an awful name. Not many people can spell 'aesthetic', let alone say it. But I don't know, everyone just calls us TSA, so I guess that kind of works out.

DM: What would you do if you weren't teaching
music?
ADT: I would teach kindergarten. I love kids! I think that they're honest and amazing. I tell my mom that all the time. I'm like, "Mom, just wait. When I go back to school, if that ever happens, I'm going to be teaching kindergarten." She thinks I'm crazy.

DM: Do you have any goals for The Scene Aesthetic?
ADT: Yeah! I mean absolutely! We just got back from recording our brand new full-length album that's way overdue. We're hoping to release it early next year. It turned out amazing. We had really talented people play on it. Three out of the five people also played for John Mayer, so getting to play with these people...it was like my heart just stopped and melted and broke into a million pieces. So, I mean, we'll just release it and see how it goes. It's a little bit different, but hopefully kids will like it.

DM: What's the title of that album?
ADT: It's untitled right now. It's a couple months away, so it's going to take some thorough thinking.

DM: Are there any other bands that you draw influence from when you're writing your songs?
ADT: I'm a huge, huge Death Cab for Cutie fan. I think Ben Gibbard is one of the most amazing songwriters of our era. I don't think I've heard anyone for a while that can paint such a good picture. I feel like when I'm listening to his lyrics, I can see exactly what he experienced in that moment when he wrote it. I love that! Plus, he's got the most amazing wife ever, Zooey Deschanel. I mean, that's a catch!


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Owl City
On Oct. 8, Owl city made music-lovers of all ages flock to Des Moines for a night of soulful emo-pop. The concert sold out and had to change location from The House of Bricks to People's Court, a larger venue, after only the first week of ticket sales. Fans were lined up outside and down the street two hours before the doors opened. A few ticketless hopefuls came to the concert, but were turned away, as People's Court was already filled to capacity.

Owl City was upbeat and energetic. The band consisted of several instrumentalists-a violin player, a cello player, a drummer, a keyboardist, and even someone playing the maracas. The band did a great job of pumping up the crowd and including them in the show.

Concert Footage


Check out footage from the Oct. 8 concert here:

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Pretty Little Liars


Aside from the crazy summer nights with my friends from high school, aside from sweet summertime romances and outdoor dates, aside from soaking my hair in my friend's chlorine-filled pool...one of my favorite activities this summer has occurred every Tuesday night.

Okay I'm talking about a TV show. Sometimes after I've worked a ten hour day in the sun with screaming kids, the prospect of vegging out in my air conditioned house in front of the TV sounds just as exciting as a night out.

The show that has captured my attention this summer? Pretty Little Liars

Despite the fact that it's on ABC Family, Pretty Little Liars has all the intrigue and drama of a more mature show like Desperate Housewives. The show follows four girls whose missing friend of three years has finally been found, dead. Their dead friend, Allison, is the only one that knew all the secrets the girls would never tell anyone else. Now someone (possibly Allison) is sending the girls messages threatening to expose their secrets.

I enjoy a good scandal and all, but what I really love about the show is the clothes. Each girl has a really individualized style, which for a fashion junkie like me is really entertaining to see each week. And of course, the sexy male cast on the show doesn't hurt.

Scandal, fashion, and eye candy. My Tuesday nights sound a lot more exciting now, don't they?

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Vows

Marriage vows I understand. Just because you have a relationship with someone and love someone doesn't mean there should be no rules or established promises. With marriage vows you're promising you will be with someone forever, you will stand by them no matter what happens, through anything, you will be there for them.

Wouldn't it be great if everyone significant in your life took similar vows? Parents for instance. Yes, they are your family and there is an unspoken commandment that they will always be there. But we all know how often this is not true.

I recently went to visit a friend's home that I had never been to. Like my mother, a former real estate agent, I love looking at homes and seeing how they reflect the people who live in them. And this home, was clearly full of love. Looking around at all of the kid's pictures on the walls and their various awards displayed with pride, one could clearly see that these were involved and loving parents. It gave me a pang just thinking of the plain white walls of my father's own home. Later as I listened to these parents talk about their kids, even if it was just lamenting on one's head being in the clouds, I wondered what my father would say about me, and I dearly wished he knew when my own head was in the clouds or when I'm upset....or happy for that matter.

There is no doubt I grew up with lots and lots of love. After my mom passed, this love was revealed to me even more. My sister became my biggest hero, someone to look up to, and someone who has indeed been there for me no matter what. I'm almost certain that at some point when I wasn't paying attention she must have taken some vow to God, because she is truly incredible. Additionally, a family friend became a sort of surrogate mother, taking on responsibilities that she had no obligation to take on. My grandparents have been there for us since our loss, giving a silent support that one could feel if not nessacarily hear flat out. And my father, in his own awkward ways, loves me too.

However the lines of communication between us are not always clear. I have my secrets and he has his too I'm sure. We only say the things we think are acceptable for the other to hear. Surface level conversations that avoid any possible hurt about the things that have happened. And these surface level conversations lead me to question, What if parents had to take certain vows to their children? Or vice versa? It'd be difficult, yes. But sometimes you need a push to do those things that are most difficult...and I know we are both still waiting for that push.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Putting Down Roots: Finding a Home at Drake



Another article published and my portfolio is growing! Read below for my article in Drake University Honors Magazine:
First-year students typically fall into two categories: those who instantly love college and those who hate it. College buffs look forward to breaks but can't wait to get back to their "real home." These students revel in the freedom of being on their own, enjoying the sleepless school nights and the excitement of starting their own paths in life. Other students aren't so lucky.

But for every first-year student experiencing the endorphin rush that is college, there is another sitting in the hall Skyping with friends from back home for hours. With any new experience comes some level of discomfort, especially in a university setting. There are the roommate disagreements, 12-page paper assignments and the realization that for at least the next two years you will be forced to eat in a dining hall.

Katherine Fritke, a broadcast major from Scottsdale, Ariz., came to Drake like most first-year students, enthusiastic to start over. Fritke participated in a slew of extracurricular activities in high school and felt the pressure of people's expectations. "I grew up in a very Catholic household and never really got to have a lot of fun and try a lot of things," she says.

However, since coming to Drake, Fritke says she hasn't really experienced any homesickness. She's no stranger to distance however-going to camp every summer, and even spending this past summer as a camp counselor in Durango, Colo., will do that to you.

"Camp forced me to make friends and connections and take charge of myself," Fritke says, "so I was used to being on my own."

Although Fritke misses the big city atmosphere of Scottsdale, Ariz., the trusting people and laid back attitude of Iowa have won her over. Spending time with neighbors from back home who recently moved to Des Moines has helped ease the transition, as had Drake's academic setting. "Since the classes are smaller, I feel like I can always ask my professors for help when needed," Fritke says.
Unfortunately, not all college students have such a smooth transition. Like many at Drake, first-year student Autumn Bradfish comes from a suburb of Chicago. Even though Bradfish's home is much closer than Scottsdale, Ariz.-by more than 1,000 miles, actually-Bradfish has experienced homesickness in a way Fritke hasn't. After choosing Drake based on the quality of its journalism school and the job opportunities available at Meredith Corporation in Des Moines, Bradfish began to count down the days until college. "I didn't like high school so I was ready to move on and be in a more mature environment," she says, "But I've found that people are not more mature."

Soon after school started, Bradfish realized how much she wished she were closer to her family. She is the only person in her family attending an out-of-state school. That makes leaving after breaks that much more difficult. In fact, Bradfish calls her mom on the phone every day to help with the homesickness. "I've learned that no matter how independent I was, I still like having the comfort of my family and a home," she says.

However, Bradfish has recently been broadening her horizons and attending more events on campus, such as "The Vagina Monologues." Her increased involvement at Drake has improved her college experience.

Senior PMAC (peer mentor academic consultant), Eric Gudmundson didn't feel any homesickness when he first came to Drake. He immediately fell in love with the campus. In fact, he loves Des Moines so much he had the skyline tattooed on his rib cage. "I got it because Drake has given me a lot of meaningful experiences and changed my perspective on a lot of things," he says.

Nonetheless, he is well accustomed to helping first-years deal with homesickness. "I think it's really helpful to get off campus," Gudmundson says. He suggests students explore all the "nooks and crannies" that make up Des Moines. "Des Moines isn't exactly a city that presents all its opportunities right away; you have to dig a bit. A good Web sit to find things to do is Metromix Des Moines," he says (desmoines.metromix.com).

"Starting any new experience can be difficult, but that's completely natural to feel," Gudmundson says. Although Fritke was able to feel immediately comfortable at Drake, her previous experiences helped her adapt quickly. If you've experienced homesickness like Bradfish has, it's best to take an active approach. "Drake does a really good job of making you feel like they want you here," Gudmundson says. "Also there are always plenty of on-campus events to take advantage of." In time, anyone can put down roots at Drake.

Friday, April 30, 2010

Break a Sexy Sweat



Drake Magazine came out this week, along with my article about the best workouts for your sex life. After so many rounds of editing, it is always exciting to finally see your name and piece in print. So here is my piece, Break a Sexy Sweat, enjoy!

Ask any woman who's rockin' a good sex life what her secret is and nine times out ten she’ll tell you: confidence. As easy as it is to worry about your “wobbly bits” as Bridget Jones says, it is just as easy to find a fun, unique workout to give you the confidence boost you need, and the resulting boost in the bedroom. These workouts all not only help you build confidence, but also let you have fun and feel sexy.

Strip Tease Aerobics

“When you feel good, you look good, and you want to go home and…feel even better.” Caeli Esser teaches strip tease aerobics at the Des Moines Social Club, giving women an intense cardio workout while teaching sensual dance moves. The 45-minute class is almost nonstop movement. One class consists of some stretching routines, a few dance/strip tease numbers incorporating burlesque moves, a chair dance, some ab and arm work, and finally a much-needed cool down stretch. Esser teaches in a fun, encouraging way that really lets you open up and let loose. Participants leave feeling invigorated, accompanied by some soreness, but mostly feeling their body humming with energy. Strip Tease Aerobics can simply be a good workout, or as your boyfriend may prefer, you can take home the moves for a sexy, practical application. After all, a spicy sex life is more than just having the right moves; a good visual is always appreciated.

Kegels

If you aren’t comfortable exercising in public or don’t have time for to go to a gym, Kegels are an exercise you can do while just sitting in class. Dr. Locke, of the Winneshiek Medical Center, describes Kegels as tightening and relaxing of the pelvic floor muscles and can be done by both men and women. Don’t know which ones are the pelvic floor muscles? He often tells patients to try to stop your flow of urine mid-stream, the muscles that you use to clench are the same muscles you use when doing Kegels. However, don’t attempt to do this often or you’ll find yourself with more problems than just a dull sex life. Although Kegels are most often used to help urinary incontinence, they can also help with your sex life. For men, the strengthening of these muscles helps stop early ejaculation and can lead to multiple climaxes. And while it can’t hurt for the sex to last a little longer, women also get the added benefit of tightening, which you can use to squeeze your man’s package more (a benefit for him as well). But beware, the benefits of this exercise are controversial; some doctors say to see results you may have to do up to 200 a day!

Yoga Booty Ballet

Yoga Booty Ballet is just what it sounds like, a little bit of yoga, a little bit of ballet, and a whole lot of working and toning the booty. And of course, having a good booty helps you get some good ‘booty’ (cheesy, but true). Yoga Booty Ballet is a series of DVDs that help you embrace your inner power and inner beauty through toning ballet exercises combined with breathing techniques and yoga mantras. This workout is more about your mindset than anything else. “My outer body will now reflect my beautiful insides,” is one mantra used in the DVD “Goddess Booty” (available at Amazon for $19.95). It gets you thinking about what mantra you could use under the covers; perhaps “I am a sexy, confident, strong woman.” That pretty much sums up what we want our guy thinking about us as well.

Other DVDs to try include Flirty Girl Fitness (flirtygirlfit.com $9.99), in which you can even order a pole to be installed in your home to aid your workout, Core Rhythms (at Amazon from $13-$20), a Latin-inspired abdominal-centered workout, or the Pussycat Dolls Workout DVD (also at Amazon for $10.99) with routines set to the group’s hit songs and choreographed by their own choreographer, Robin Antin.

Whether it’s getting the right moves, building up certain muscles, or just thinking in the right way, there are plenty of ways to spice up your sex life. If you don’t believe me, get out there and start seeing the results, you’re certain to get rave reviews. Remember, the key to all these workouts is the one thing guys crave the most, confidence.